The Long Road Home: A Message from Someone Who's Walked It
- Jacquin
- 6 days ago
- 2 min read
Hey everyone, I've been thinking a lot lately about the journey home. It's a phrase that carries so much weight, especially for those who've walked the path I have. You see, I know firsthand what it's like to reenter society after years of being locked away. It's a homecoming that's often far from the joyous reunion we imagine. I'm writing this because I want to speak directly to the loved ones of those who are coming home. You've waited, you've hoped, and now the day is here. But I need you to know, the person who walks through that door isn't the same. Prison changes them. It forces you to adapt, to survive in a world that's nothing like the one you left behind. Here's what I want you to understand:
Survival Mode is a Constant: Inside, you learn to live on edge, constantly aware of your surroundings. That doesn't just disappear overnight.
Loss of Control is Devastating: Every decision, every minute of your day, is dictated by someone else. That takes a toll.
Trauma is Inevitable: Prison is a breeding ground for trauma. The things you see, the things you experience, they stay with you.
Reintegration is a Struggle: Simple tasks become overwhelming. The world outside feels foreign and confusing.
So, what can you do? How can you support your loved one as they navigate this difficult transition?
Listen Without Judgment: Create a safe space for them to share their experiences, without fear of criticism.
Acknowledge Their Pain: Understand that they're carrying a heavy burden. Be patient and compassionate.
Offer Practical Help: Help them with the everyday tasks that feel so daunting.
Be Patient: Rebuilding a life takes time. Don't rush them.
Encourage Professional Help: Therapy, support groups, these resources can make a world of difference.
Set Realistic Expectations: There will be setbacks. That's part of the process.
Support Their growth: They will be different, and that is alright.
I'm sharing this because I know how hard it is, both for the person coming home and for the people who love them. It's a long road, but with patience, understanding, and unwavering support, it's a road that can be walked together.
Remember, they're not the person who left. But with your support, they can build a new life, a better life.